Couple Uninvites Friend’s Wife From Wedding Due to Being ‘Broke,’ But Says She’s Welcome to Order Herself a Pizza at the Reception

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Sep 3, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet enthusiasts. The tales of wedding drama are endless and vast; on the outside, the wedding commends itself for its meretricious exterior. Food, dancing, beautiful vows, gowns, and men in suits. Yet deep below the surface there's familial tension, drama, hookups, and past drama from friendships. 

This brings us to the Reddit thread. In this thread, the original poster (OP) tells the tale of his friendship with a man. When it was OP's wedding, the friend cancels three days before the wedding, costing OP a fortune in accommodation and food. Now it's time for the friend to get married. OP receives a Whatsapp invite about the wedding, and when he goes to register himself and his wife, an error message appears. Apparently his wife isn't invited because no one gets a plus one to the wedding. How cheap is it for someone to not provide plus ones to their longest friend's wife. 

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    r/weddingshaming Dependent Ad_7501 My wife not invited to friends wedding
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    I (34m) got married to my wife (33F) last year. Been together 5years, married almost one.
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    My friend (of 17 years) and his fiancé were both invited to my wedding but neither of them made it. His fiancé was ~12 weeks pregnant and they decided 3 days before our wedding that the journey would be too much for her. Perfectly understandable and I don't at all judge that decision.
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    They were, however, supposed to be staying in one of the group accommodation (chalet style, 5 bedroom place) for the evening before the wedding (which everyone was splitting the cost of), and we also provided them a room in the wedding venue for the night of the wedding, the cost
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    of which was covered by myself and my wife.
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    They didn't give us anywhere near enough notice to cancel their meals, so we still had to pay the full amount for both of them, plus they never paid their share of the accommodation for the night before. They gave a small cash gift in the week after the wedding which was less than the night
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    before accommodation cost. I didn't press for any reimbursement as they had enough stress with the pregnancy and we've been friends for so long etc.
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    Fast forward to a week ago when I receive a new WhatsApp group message; a wedding invite! They didn't want to spend the money on physical invites, so did a WhatsApp link to a digital one instead. Coolio. "Click the link, type your name and you and all members of your party will show
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    up". I type my name, my invite showed up. My wife wasn't on it, so I tried again with her name - "guest not found". Weird.
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    I forgot to ask him about it last week, but we were exchanging messages earlier, normal catching up stuff, as he says "...we're not doing plus ones during the day cos of how unbearably broke we are but if K (my wife) is coming over obviously she's more than welcome to come smash pizzas
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    and many many beverages with us for the evening, hope that's ok!"
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    I'm not sure how to process this; you and your (then) gf were both invited to ours, both dropped out and didn't even cover the accommodation we had paid for, never mind the meal etc, and then tell me I can't bring my wife to your wedding, but she's welcome to have a free pizza and
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    buy her own drinks that evening? LOL Important to note; we live in a different country, so this is not a case of jump in the car and swing in for the evening party. This is flights, hire cars, hotels. Insane.
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    Weaselpanties 5d ago These people are not really your friends.
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    SomeGuyInTheUK ⚫ 5d ago RSVP "no"
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    84aomame 5d ago Your wife is not a plus one! People are so weird
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    LiliWenFach • 5d ago 'We invited you to our wedding and didn't cause a fuss or ask us to reimburse us when you cancelled at the last minute, leaving us to pay your share of expenses. We valued your friendship,
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    so it wasn't an issue. However you clearly don't place equal value on the relationship. We considered you both friends, but now see that isn't the case - as otherwise you would have invited us both and not excluded my wife.'
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    That's what I would send. This friendship isn't worth maintaining. Burn your bridges. No card, no gift. Show them what they're worth.
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    MyLadyBits • 5d ago Tell them their gift is the cost of what you paid for their last minute cancellation and don't go.
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    Engaged GroomsP... 5d ago Your wife is a guest, not a plus one. Weird to not include her for the wedding but invite her to smash pizza? Awkward.
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    They didn't reimburse you for the stay and sunk food, but it sounds like you're about to save a ton of money not going to their wedding. I wouldn't go. If you want to be extra petty, RSVP yes and back out last minute.
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    Amazing_Reality2... • 5d ago I'd skip this wedding... and the friendship. These "friends" are not friends. They're just
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